Trust Your Leaders
This one is slightly rant-y, but I think I’ve got a good message burried in here
I’m not going to go into a lot of details… it’s just not necessary, but we had some guild drama last night. The drama stemmed from what I think is a very small group of people who whine and moan at eachother and it escalated to the point where the GM was confronted in a very ugly way. This person demanded things that would have gotten him a /gkick in other guilds. In ours… they lost a lot of credibility with the leadership and we’ll have to see where the future takes it. My point here today is not to embarass this person (if they’re reading, I don’t know one way or the other) or to gripe about what happened. I wanted to tell all of you out there to trust your leaders. Give them the benefit of the doubt until they give you a GOOD reason not to trust them any more. Be objective with this. I put the “until” statement in there because there are people out there who have no business being leaders, but I’d bet that a lot of the GM’s and Officers out there are good leaders and could be a lot better with a little trust. I know that in our guild… we don’t make rash decisions, we don’t make spitefull decisions, we aren’t trying to exclude anyone or screw anyone over. We are trying to maximize the guild’s ability to acheive our goals… progression through raid content. Almost every decision we make has that goal in mind. Also, I do mean WE. This is not a dictatorship. In order for us as a group of leaders to make good decisions we have a system of checks and balances. We don’t like for anyone to make decisions by them selves. That way there’s always an objective opinion.
If you have a question or concern about what is going on in your guild go talk to someone, and not joe-schmoe who can’t do anything about it except whine and moan along with you. As long as you’re not whining any good leader will appreciate and consider what you have to say. Also keep in mind that in any group it is impossible to make everyone happy. Consider that before you go complaining. Is the decision that was made good for the group even if it’s not good for me as an indvidual? That is a really hard thing to get your brain wrapped around. But I think if you can talk to your leaders with an open mind and listen to what they have to say, they’ve probably got a reason for what they’re doing.
To all you guild leaders out there… don’t be dictators. Establish goals for your guild and try to do things to advance those goals. When your members have concerns, listen to them. Let them say what they need to say. If there’s something that needs to change, assure them that you’ll take care of it, then actually take care of it. If not, then do your best to explain why things can’t change. Let them know you understand their concerns, but it’s better for the guild to keep things the way they are.
Lastly, for all parties involved, try to stay calm. It doesn’t matter if you’re upset or not, you will be held accountable for the words that come out of your mouth. If you say something stupid, you can’t take it back. You can apologize later… but sometimes that’s not good enough. Words have a way of sticking with you. Try to say what you mean and mean what you say (if you figure out how to do this all the time… tell me how!)
I think that’s all I’ve got. Have a great weekend everyone!